If you aren’t familiar with Tinder, let me fill you in on this “dating app,” which is ironically, the end of dating.
But first, a little background.
Dating 1.0 was what our grandparents did, at least if you’re in Generation X like me. It’s also what our grandparents’ grandparents did, and all their ancestors and their ancestors.
Dating 1.0 wasn’t perfect, but it was better than dating now. It limited choices. Men couldn’t have sex with multiple women, unless you were the king or wanted to sleep with prostitutes. Women couldn’t have sex with multiple men, unless you wanted to be socially ostracized or possibly even killed. As a man, if you mistreated a woman, you would likely be killed, beaten, or imprisoned too.
Dating 1.0 also involved relating to people. This involved acknowledging them as human beings, and relating to them on a deeper level. Dating 1.0 was about long-term relationships, community-building, and children.
Dating 2.0, modern dating, started off with good intentions perhaps, with more freedom for all parties, but has ended up with Tinder, the complete objectification of the other.
Tinder is the end of relating to one another.
Tinder, the dating app, is the end of dating.
I first heard about Tinder a few years ago, when someone suggested I try it while I was on vacation, “to meet girls”. I tried it, and chatted with a few people, and met a few but it felt weird and I stopped using it.
The postmodern world has become completely transactional, not relational. We need to reverse this and become relational again. There’s no time like the present.
Some remote investors and "progressive" tech gurus, between lattes and in their gated townhomes in some remote gentrified location far from the ecological social damage they caused, made a fortune off Tinder I’m sure.
But Tinder is the end.
Tinder is a sign.
It’s time to start the world again.